Where is the Gold?

With everything that is going on in the world, it is not unusual for me to receive a series of clients back-to-back all expressing the same pains and frustrations.  Financial worries are far and away the number one stressor that my clients are struggling with right now.

In the past weeks I have had numerous women, in their 50’s and 60’s not looking forward to retirement but looking at employment applications.

One husband has been unemployed for over a year.  Another’s husband has become disabled and she is now taking on a second job to pay for the added medical expenses.  And many others  are simply finding that what they thought would be their Golden years…. has left them with half or less of the gold they had been saving for their retirement.

These are real life challenges, yes.  However, the real battle is not in the situation, but in the mind.  The ever present little EGO voice loves to agitate us with thoughts of our personal woe and despair.

Maybe some of these client’s phrases sound familiar to you?

“It wasn’t supposed to be like this!”

“I didn’t sign up for all of this!”

“I will never be able to retire, I will die first!”

“I did everything right and this is what I got for it!”

You may be asking: “How do you help them feel better when they are so paralyzed with Grief after such Trauma, Loss or Change?

First: keep it simple. Begin by loving yourself or your client right in the middle of this circumstance.  And just tap on the real feelings using the little EGO voice words just as they are coming to you. And yes, we can get some F-bombs flying when the client needs to express the true anger.

(If you are feeling like life has sucker punched you and you are tired of feeling discouraged and defeated… you can simply read along or tap along with this sample script.)

Take a few breathes and when you are ready… tap slowly …:

Even though, I keep thinking …..That it wasn’t supposed to be like this….. and I am angry and weary at the thought.  I deeply and completely accept…. that this is how I feel right now ….and it is an appropriate response to the Trauma, Loss and Change that I have experienced recently.

Even though, I am feeling so discouraged…. And overwhelmed by it all…. It seems like everything has Changed and I feel powerless to change it back… perhaps today… I can relax into the idea that I don’t have to Change things back… that is probably not the solution…. In fact that will probably never happen…. I am willing ….to be willing…. To just accept that this reaaaallly sucks!!!

Even though, it is no wonder that I am feeling overwhelmed…with all that has Changed…. and the feelings of safety that I have Lost.   My little EGO voice has been badgering me… day and night… reminding me… as if I could forget…. That it looks and feels so hopeless. I would like to try… to focus on the tasks at hand…. And then perhaps…. Taking one step at a time…. I will see that the only power I have to Change anything… is in this moment ….I can change my mind. I can stop those little EGO voice rants… because I do believe that….rehearsing the problem… never solves the problem!!!

Take a deep breath… and then tap these (or similar phrases) until you’re emotions begin to mellow.

• I didn’t ask for this…
• I didn’t expect this….
• I don’t want this….
• I cannot change this…
• I am sooo ticked off about this…
• This was NOT supposed to happen (To me or us?)
• How dare (they, he whom?)
• Curses and Curses and Curses this sucks!

You see, if there is anything I know about the little EGO voice it is that it’s like a 2-year old having a tantrum.  When we ignore it… it screams louder and gets more persistent.  If we hear it out, give it our undivided attention and repeat whatever it has been chanting while tapping…  without battle or condemnation… it always… (Okay, in a mentally stable person I have found that it) always… yes I said always… gets bored with ranting after a while.  Once it feels that it is “right” and you have heard it, it ….will….get quiet.

So today, whatever is giving you grief… just be with it. Tap and “tell it” sisters (and of course my brothers!) and with no agenda to fix or Change or solve the problem…. Give that part of you, your full attention, just for a short while.  See if you don’t discover that it feels better. And you may experience some silence.  Ah… silence of mind now THAT is GOLDEN!

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Love and HUGS,
Jan